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rush to the aid of any female they see who appears in any form of distress.

You'll see this in women to some degree, both with guys they want as providers and with guys they want as friends (curiously, women don't seem as fixated on "keeping" men in the lover category), but where you'll see it a lot is with men -- particularly, the kind of man who doesn't get the kind of success with women he needs to feel that women are an abundant resource.

That kind of man is what you might call a "white knight." And he sees it as his mission in life to "save" women he views as "damsels in distress" -- only to make them his, of course.

“Find other pursuits, activities or even professional endeavors to fill that need within you,” Mack notes. Or, change careers entirely: “Perhaps you’re really meant for a career in therapy, as a counselor or as a writer,” says Mack.

Most Knights and Nightingales can do the heavy lifting required to break this bad rescue-behavior pattern.

“Hurt daters have a remarkable capacity to pick new dates and place them back into the same ‘need-to-fix’ scenarios they’ve experienced in the past.” If this sounds familiar, take some time and make an effort to get out of the rescuing business — and into a new romance!

A personality characteristic found in most males that lead them to: 1.

To figure out what’s driving your romantic rescue missions, certified dating coach Sandy Weiner suggests visualizing yourself as a literal, real-life rescuer. All this will help you develop a realistic picture of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.