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Blind dating etiquette

The Reality of Chemistry I defy anyone to pick my perfect match out of a crowd. Yes, I could point out the guys I’m attracted to on face-value. But beyond that, I wouldn’t be able to tell you who I was compatible with, without properly spending some time with him. But you need to look at them as a bit of fun, and an opportunity to make a new friend.

Don’t criticize the menu or complain that she didn’t give you a heads up about the dress code. If the two of you aren’t a good fit, you don’t have to go out on a second date. Reference a conversation you had to let him know you’re thinking about the date fondly. Make a good impression — and show your date some respect — by arriving when you said you would. Make an effort to present the best version of yourself and to dress appropriately for the specific date. Manners are important, regardless of how well the two of you hit it off. It can be overwhelming to the listener, and can put the sharer in a vulnerable spot. It’s easy to spend most of a first date worried about what impression you’re making or what anecdote you should share next — and totally forget to pay attention to what the other person is saying.

(Bonus points if you can make him laugh.) Plan to end it. It’s better to end the date on a high note, with both of you wishing you had more time to spend together, than to make the other person feel trapped and unable to walk away. If the night fails to turn into the beginning of an epic love story, at least it won’t be because your date thought you were rude. Let your date get to know you without sharing every dark secret or messy life story.

Even if the two of you are really hitting it off, end the date as planned. If you said yes: Plan to pay — but accept your date’s offer to do so. If he mentions a “next time” and you’re eager to see him again, don’t play hard to get or send mixed signals. Smile, touch his shoulder, and reassure him that his efforts are appreciated. If the relationship is heading somewhere, you’ll have plenty of time to talk about fertility worries, family drama or financial pressures.

On the flip side, if you're the one who was set up, don't overshare to your matchmaker, particularly if you thought the date was a total disaster. This was never a set up situation, but my friends Emilie and Mike are clearly perfect for each other, and everyone in our group of friends knew it.